10 Things You Need to Give Up to Be Happy

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Most of us lead busy lives filled with stressful events. At times, it seems like we just can't get ahead. Just when we're starting to feel happy and content, something happens that brings reality crashing down like a ton of bricks. In order to truly be happy, we have to learn to let certain things go. Instead of holding onto the things that cause us pain, suffering and stress, it's time to give them up.

Here are 10 things you need to give up to be happy:

1. Stop Living Life for Others and Start Living It for Yourself.

Are you the type of person who worries constantly what other people are going to think? If so, it's time to stop trying to live your life to what you think other people's expectations of you are. For one, you're probably wrong. People tend to consider worst-case scenarios when considering what others are thinking about them. Even you are right and you actually are being held to an unachievable standard, why are you willing to compromise your happiness by attempting to become someone you aren't just to please someone else?


2. Learn to Let Things Go.

We all get attached to stuff. People, places, items, pets. They're all a huge part of our lives and we tend to become attached to them. The problem with attachment is, once an item we're attached to is lost, we tend to dwell on that item and miss it intensely. Life is in a constant state of flux and we have to learn to let things go in order to be happy. No, I'm not saying you can't fall in love. Just understand that the things you love in life may not be there forever.

3. Stop Dwelling on the Past and Start Looking Toward the Future.

Learn from your mistakes, but don't dwell on them. This can be difficult, especially when the past was comfortable and the future is uncertain, but you'll never be happy if you're constantly pining for the things that were instead of looking ahead and working on the things that will be. Create a clear vision of where you want to be in 1, 5, 10 and even 20 years down the road and work toward that vision.

4. Stop Being So Controlling.

Certain things in life are out of your control. People are going to do things you don't like and that you don't think are a good idea. It's OK to give your input. It isn't OK to try to control every aspect of their lives because you don't want them to fail. Accept that everyone is different and there are multiple paths to the same destination. You wouldn't want someone to try to control your every action. Stop trying to control the actions of others.

5. Learn to Be Wrong.

A good percentage of the population hates to be wrong. So much so, in fact, that they're willing to pick fights with others just to prove they're right. I've seen relationships and friendships end for no reason other than the people involved were unwilling to budge and admit one or both of them were wrong. Ask yourself this: Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy? Being right isn't always the correct path.

6. Give up the Self-Defeating Inner Voice.

We're all our own worst critics. We tend to over-exaggerate our failures and don't place enough emphasis on our successes. The inner voice you hear every day plays a huge role in how happy you are. If your inner voice is a constant source of negativity, you're going to be unhappy. Stop the self-deprecation and start building yourself up. You'll be much happier in the long run.

7. Stop Saying "I Can't" and Start Saying "I Can!"

This one walks hand-in-hand with number 6. If you constantly tell yourself you can't do something, there's a pretty good chance you aren't going to accomplish it. Most successful people had to deal with a large number of failures before they find success. They didn't give up and fall victim to the "I Cant's." Instead, they told themselves "I Can Do This" and got right back at it.

8. Give Up the Excuses.

There's always going to be a reason not to do somethings, be it fear of failure, rejection or the desire to avoid hard work. People who let excuses rule their decision-making process tend to be unhappy because they tend to stagnate in life. Don't let the fear of failure determine your path in life. Stop making excuses and start making progress. You'll be much happier in the long run.

9. Stop Procrastinating.

You have a lot of stuff that needs to be done. We all do. Procrastination creates a vicious cycle in which we fill most of our time with non-essential tasks and then have to really scramble at the last possible minute to get the important stuff done. Living life in this manner is a bad habit to get into because it's tough to get ahead in life when most of your time is spent on the unimportant items. Stop procrastination dead in its tracks by learning to recognize the things you do when you don't want to take care of business. When you find your mind drifting to these things, make a conscious effort to get back on track.

10. Get Rid of the Negative Influences in Your Life.

Take a close look at the people you're surrounded by. Are they generally happy people or are they a constant source of negative energy? Happy people tend to hang out with other happy people and distance themselves from people who bring them down.